Comments on Never Stop Dreaming: Making a decision and regretting it

Thanks to all for putting your thoughtful comments...

2008-11-27T10:32:00.000+09:00

Thanks to all for putting your thoughtful comments. I am glad that most of you found this post interesting.
Dilipjee, you have righly pointed out the fact that after we acquire certain amount of 'maturity', the past decision seems 'immature'.
Sujitjee, welcome to this blog! and thanks for sharing your opinion on making decisions. Interesting thoughts indeed! Hope to hear from you again.
Hasitha, Thanks for adding an important dimension to the post. yes, spontaneous decisions may be, at times, dangerous. It is interesting to note your perception that if we cannot make decisions based on pure logic and reasoning, then we should go by our emotions.
I appreciate 'Anonymous' friend for giving such an elaborated idea on rational decision making process.

Dear Jhaji,

Thanks a lot for your time to v...

2008-11-27T03:12:00.000+09:00

Dear Jhaji,

Thanks a lot for your time to visit my blog , it is my privilege to have your comment there. I just tried to focus that issue as a commoner. In Nepal, it is an everyday problem. I would be highly obliged if I could communicate with you in days to come!
I have heard a lot about you from my very good friends Raushan Jha and Sujit Kumar Jha.

Warm Regards,

Sujit Kumar Thakur

Very interesting post!
We have no control over ...

2008-11-26T18:51:00.000+09:00

Very interesting post!
We have no control over what talents we are born with or without. We have no control over luck. We do have a choice as to how hard we work, but the most powerful factor affecting our lives is our ability to make wise decisions. When we are making a decision that affects us personally it is very hard to remain objective and think clearly through to the best solution. The more important the decision the more likely “outcome apprehension” will inhibit clear thinking and good decision-making.
The steps to making good decisions could be, but not limited to, the followings:
1. Be clear about what to decide
2. Gather facts and set criteria
3. Develop options
4. Evaluate options and assess risk
5. Make the decision and follow through
Having said it all, I would admit that there cant be any short cuts to rational decision making. It may depend upon person, period of time and emotions of the person at that particular time etc.
Thanks once again for this wonderful analytical post.

A very interesting post indeed. I think you should...

2008-11-25T17:29:00.000+09:00

A very interesting post indeed. I think you should also add spontaneous (heat of the moment) decision making to your list too. Which I believe is the most dangerous of them all. Because sometimes we make vital decisions based on our emotions, without really thinking it through, which could come back to haunt us for the rest of our lives. Especially those made with anger, betrayal or revenge.

In a way I think emotions are there to help us make decisions when a multitude of variable are presented. A friend of mine once suggested me this idea, and I think it is quite true. Because how else would you explain feelings and emotions like love and anger? What good are they to us, and why do we have them, if not to make decisions that we cannot make with pure logic and reasoning?..... Just my 2 cents.

I like this post.
To me, decision should be mad...

2008-11-25T09:04:00.000+09:00

I like this post.
To me, decision should be made after careful thoughts of future consequences it may result. However, this leads me to becoming very much conservative and cautious and never made significant decision after all (I guess). And the older I am getting, the more conservative I am as described genuinely by Cat Stevens in his song "Father and Son".

Dear Deependraji,

You have wonderfully illu...

2008-11-24T15:03:00.000+09:00

Dear Deependraji,

You have wonderfully illustrated the complexity of decision makings, I too believe sometimes decision making becomes very stressing provieded the multiple alternatives in hand.
Whether we repent the decisions we make or not that entirely depends on the changing environment. Sometimes we end up regretting doing something because of the unexpected unfurling of the future events though we knew we had taken the best decision at that particular point of time.
I believe decision making can be simpler if we have a similar pattern of thoughts. Most of us has a tendency of calculating the success or failure of a crucial decision taken and again the calculation can be made based on multiple dimensions which differ from person to person. sometimes we are forced to regret something because of others' perception though we heartedly appreciate our decisions. I believe if any decision that is closer to oneself and self convincing , we should go ahead with that despite people around us may think it was a wrong decision. If we have a tendency of getting carried away with other's sentiments then we may more often regret. I think being yourself can definitely reduce the tension of making a decision and regretting it afterwards.

Warm Regards,

Sujit Kumar Thakur
Gaur-13, Rautahat

Thanks for this Perfect analytical post.

Bu...

2008-11-24T11:49:00.000+09:00

Thanks for this Perfect analytical post.

But my own experiences tells that, however we take decisions, there still may me 'room' for repenting. Because making 100% perfect decision is always impossible and we mature by experiences and after certain 'maturity' the past decision seems 'immature'

Deependra ji, thanks for such a realistic and info...

2008-11-24T10:49:00.000+09:00

Deependra ji, thanks for such a realistic and informative post. In many cases, we can learn from both bad and good decisions by analyzing why the decisions were bad or good, and make our future decisions more perfect. But there are several "big" and once-in-a-lifetime decisions with long-lasting consequences, in which case we should rigorously evaluate before deciding. Sadly, many people, including myself, don't think too much before taking decisions, and regret later.

Comments on Never Stop Dreaming: Making a decision and regretting it

Thanks to all for putting your thoughtful comments...

Dear Jhaji,Thanks a lot for your time to v...

Very interesting post!We have no control over ...